The Below Text is Written By Krista Hansen, ( My Mother ) as an Essay to show writing skills for an approval into a Collage. However. This is something that I believe should be shared with others due to the affect of what is written Herein.

Koda Falken aka Robert

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Has chivalry died, or is this a question that women ponder in their heads. Is chivalry a dream that women have fantasies about? To have a gallant man, the medieval knight type that will respect us, honour us, open doors, bring flowers and court us in the old fashion ways.

This, I fear, is a dream. Women suffer from, what I would like to quote from a friend: the Victorian syndrome. To find men that has instilled in them the courtesy knowledge of behaving as gentlemen.

Some women live in this delusion of grandeur, their heads in the clouds, that there still remains men out there that practice chivalry. So onward we go, turning over every stone, look behind every brush, the proper gentlemen must be out there, somewhere. Thus the saying good men are hard to find.

There is a diamond in the rough that has always been two steps ahead of our search. Just when we think we have found the perfect man, the one of a kind, man of our dreams that is chivalrous. He usually turns out to be a control freak that had put on a convincing show. The unfortunate part was, and or is, some of us women bought the tickets.

I have asked men about their thoughts on chivalry and I usually get 2 defensive negative responses : (1) that it is for gays and sissies, you will find such men at fundraisers, the ballet, the symphony and other related activities. (2) they utter under their breathes, they are romantic at the same time they are scratching their family jewels and belching in public. Needless to say most women do not date these type of men with negative responses such as this. Also the ones that can give play by play details of "Debbie does Dallas' or "Girls gone Wild'. My self, I prefer the men that can enjoy classical music or can be open to go to a live performances.

Is it society that has changed the course of chivalry today. What we view in the media: on television, read in books or magazines and see on the internet. Where we view violence, sexual behaviour and domestic abuse. There is so much sex in the media that depict women as sexual objects. Maybe this can be some of the fault to why some men act poorly around women.

Some men are taught by their fathers and peers to hide their emotions, to toughen up, turning some men into vulgar, beer drinking, belching, Buddha belly heathens. Desensitizing the man's emotional state of mind. Could this be another reason why chivalry seems to b dead?

On the other hand, women are also at fault. There are more split homes where as women have to take on more responsibilities. Children do not see the respect between couples in relationships. Some mothers feel, what's the point of interrogating the values of chivalry to their children because of the way society is today.

Society has altered both genders views on relationships, where on the first or second date, they cling to each other in this animalistic desperation for appropriation, setting aside any values for a long courtship where as chivalry can be applied. Claiming in their defense of their actions: their biological clock is ticking or they are tired of being alone.

I wonder to myself if chivalry has died because of us women. Over the years we have asked for more and more equal rights and to be respected on the same levels as men. With that men are afraid to offend women, by holding the door open and waiting for women to enter through. Men fear that women may yell at them and the women state "they are capable of opening the door themselves.' Did burning our bras make us women less goddess like in men's eyes.

As I look back through out history, even though I acknowledge there were many peasants and servants, I am looking more at the lords and nobles, where chivalry was prevalent. Women were more refined with a certain elegance and men were gallant. Women appear to have this damsel in distress persona and men fought for the women's attention. This attention was like a prize to the men; the women's affection and adoration. In the end it's the women that chooses who they will be with, not the men.

I am not saying, we as women have to be more subservient, we have fought hard for equality. I am saying women should be a little more sensitive and passionate but not like an Italian diva might be ; all dramatic.

A woman should let the man know of her adorations, hence forth, he'll adorn her with flowers, open and shut doors for her, push in her chair on an evening out dining and show her all his affection. It's women that have to entice the response they wish to get and to get this response, women need to communicate to men what they want.

So I feel chivalry is not dead, it just changed over time with society. Both men and women have changed. So they are equally to blame for the change in chivalry because no matter what " outside forces' there are, we both know right from wrong and know how to respect one another.