This is an article for emos, non-emos and those who just don't get a clue.



We all know about Emos but do we really understand them? Many attack them saying they are spoiled brats who whine about every small problem(not to mention the big ones). Are all of them just spoiled teenagers or is there something more to it? The growing trend of the art that represents a person while self-harming (or after the deed) triggered me to write this.

I did a small research of what EXACTLY means "emo". If you go to wikipedia and check it, the primary description is: a style of rock music which describes several independent variations of music with common stylistic roots. Ok, fair enough. Then, I continued my reading and got to emo as a fashion style. We all know how that style looks like (If not, go read @ wikipedia).

I can understand music and fashion style, yet I don't have to like them. But, what I can't understand is what is inside of a young person's mind who thinks there-is-no-happy-ending scenario is the only true reality, that everything is so gloomy and sad so the only solution is self harming or something worse. I have to say that I do understand and know that not all of us had a happy childhood, not all have lived careless lives (who has!?), but is it all that dark and helpless as some think?

Let's be clear. Emo is shorter word for emotional. So, basically, that means that all of us are emo sometimes. It's not BAD, it is after all- normal. Yes, normal. Do I have to repeat? Normal. We are humans, we have emotions- a whole, incredible range of emotions, extremely good towards extremely bad (and viceversa), that are part of us, that make us human.So what is the difference between being a hard core emo(regarding the "popular" explanation) and those who are not? Let's say it's how we perceive the reality. For example, you lost your job. Ouch! Then you start to think:" Oh cr*p, I must have done something bad, I must be the worst orker ever, I must be the one who boss hates so much, I must be stupid, I,..." Let's see this from another angle. You lost your job. Ouch! Now you start to think: "Oh cr*ap, that was so lame. I know I did things right but as every human I might have made some mistakes and this is not fair. I know that I'm a good worker and that I'll be able to solve this problem so, maybe this is an end to a situation but it's not the end of the world!" Do you get me? There is always a solution as long as we're willing to search for it. While one person starts to worry and blame himself for all kind of things, other is already searching for a solution without self-blaming till he drops.

One more thing that has a major influence on our lives is- television. We're constantly "bombed" with comercials, super-stars, movies and talk shows. They send us a message that we are not good enough, we're not pretty enough, smart or succesful enough, even rich enough, we're not thin enough (or fat enough??), clean or dirty enough... Then, how NOT to be depressed when we are simply NOT what they want? No wonder some go emo-berserking and snap out for even a small thing.

Yet, no matter how much I understand (or try to understand) the actions of a simple man of our time, I don't justify the cataclysmic view on life, because it's not all about suffering, pain and sorrow. They feed us with war, hate and anger. But no one can feed you if you don't want to eat!

Ignorance is NOT a bliss. Person who's that sad and who wants to harm him/herself feels guilty, feels alone and misunderstood. No one loves him, no one understands him, etc... Like the whole world is against him. Laugh at those and you're prove they're right. Open your eyes, open your heart, and think out of the box. Above all, remember that you're unique no matter what others think, say or do. You're already making a difference just for being part of this world.

Stay different...